Walk Your Talk
Don't you just love those people who keep telling us what we 'should' do and then get caught doing the opposite? I'm passionate about Shadow Work which helps me see myself in everyone I cross paths with. Every time I cross a line and do something I tell other people not to do (like eating sugar, watching mind numbing television or avoiding a conversation) I feel that tight 'clutch' in my chest that says "Daryl ... you are NOT walking your talk."
So what does it mean to Walk Our Talk and why does it matter? People used to say "You should practice what you preach". That's a good way to say Walk Your Talk. Walking our talk means doing what we say we'll do, in the way we say we'll do it and for the reasons we say we'll do it. It's doing the 'right thing' or doing it the 'best way'.
Remember when your parents said "Do what I say, not what I do?" Oh, that was as hard to swallow then as it is now. AND sometimes we have to take this kind of advice from people who really don't have the capacity anymore to do the things they have done or would like to do. As a coach and teacher, what I know for sure is that if I'm telling people to be non-judgemental and accepting of others and then I go on a rant about a neighbour when I'm walking with my friend, something is way off track inside of me. And yes, it's always about what's inside of me.
Walking our talk means living with integrity; living our lives based on the truths we say we believe. If what we tell the world is different from what we believe than we need to change our words to more accurately reflect what we feel. If we want people to believe and trust us, then we need to show up with precise authenticity ... walking our talk.
Over the years I've heard my share of stories from people who say "I wouldn't work with a Life Coach who wasn't a success because they couldn't possibly help me." I don't even begin to claim accomplishments that are not true. My clients know where I am a champion and where I fail miserably. I do my best to be as real as possible and in my Women's Wisdom Retreats the participants feel immediately safe because I'm so honest with them. So I am walking my talk. The opportunity for me ... and for all of us ... is to keep growing in our lives and let our walking and talking be a shining example of what we believe inside.