"The Middle Passage begins when one is required to face issues which heretofore had been patched over." James Hollis
It is a curious thing this consideration of what really is mid-life. I thought once that it meant somewhere in our fifties, maybe sixties. Then I discovered that much of the questioning and searching was happening in our forties. And now, I have 'woke up' to yet another interpretation.
How do I know what is mid-life? Is that the 'middle passage', the midway point? And if a life is only 60 years that puts mid-life at 30. And because my friend died at 32 was his mid-life at 16?
Chronology, it would seem, has nothing to do with it. Mid-life, or as James so beautiful calls it ... The Middle Passage ... lands in those years after time has given us experiences and learning. So it makes sense that mid-life would begin for most of us in our thirties after we have lived through childhood, adolescence and young adulthood. By this time we have succeeded or failed at relationships; found or lost the perfect career; travelled the world or stayed as close as possible to home; started a family; and maybe followed a dream or two. The opportunities in mid-life are intriguing because this is the time when for so many of us, we start to wonder what life is really all about.
What usually gets us asking the questions is something uncomfortable, something we can't ignore. Whether it's our health, our relationship, our finances, aging parents, dependent adult children, or trauma, what we ultimately face, if we are willing to look consciously at our life, is a crisis of spirit. Mid-life is the perfect time to stop running around like scattered marbles and answer the questions are souls are dying to ask.
And this is the fascinating journey I am deeply engaged with in my own life. Yet again, last night, I was startled into a new perspective that is pointing me further inward. And what I know is that this is so utterly real for me. It is my deep passion and I am committed to taking women on this inner journey of reflection. For the sake of what? For the sake of understanding, peace and liberation. For the sake of doing with our lives what we have always known was right for us; what we have been afraid to admit to ourselves and the word. For the sake of saying Yes to our heart's requests and a big, resounding NO to the expectations and unrealistic demands of others.
Mid-life, this time of unparalleled empowerment is where we land when we have reached out tipping point and can no longer turn our eyes away from our truth.
Namaste Sisters. We are exactly where we are meant to be.