
I don't take it personally. I KNOW I am listening and I am listening to the enormous fear that is driving her to believe that if only people around her would do what she asks, her life would be better. Once she has vented and cleared all her emotions she slows down and hears my questions. Only then does her broken heart emerge. "Honestly," she says "I don't think I could handle a big change." And that's what she is really afraid of.
When we don't want to face our greatest fears, we look for someone to rescue us. Most of the time what we ask for is not a solution so inevitably, no matter what people do, it doesn't 'fix' the problem. If you feel misunderstood, begin within. Look for where you are not telling yourself the truth about what is wrong. Meditate, journal, pray or whatever else you know how to do to uncover the scary place that you think you can't manage. If you look courageously at what is most frightening, you will be far more empowered to be comforted and supported.