My fear of choosing the wrong path has often left me standing at an intersection, fidgeting with my inner road map. Plagued by 'what ifs', I can stall making a decision because I'm overwhelmed. While I am way better than I have been, I am also learning how my default to victim on the Drama Triangle is impacting me.
For example, my husband just said that he's almost finished his renovation work in our cottage kitchen. "Great," I thought. Then he said "So we can get the stuff put away, finish cleaning the old stove to take pictures to sell it and then clean the new and bring it in." Whew. Right away I felt a lump in my gut because I am either solely or half responsible for this new round of tasks. And I already feel like my day is so full with business planning, laundry, computer back ups, etc.
What I notice is that overwhelm plunges me directly into a Victim Mentality. Not a place I want to be. I've learned a lot of tools to recover from this default and one of the best is to just get started. Doing something ... anything ... seems to ignite some energy that is just waiting for action. It propels me into a different state of being and frankly, it doesn't matter what I am doing as long as it is in the direction of what I ultimately want.
If I let overwhelm take hold, I end the day with regret and shame for not having at least tried to do things that fulfill or satisfy me. So ... a little action is good for not only my job list but my soul.
For example, my husband just said that he's almost finished his renovation work in our cottage kitchen. "Great," I thought. Then he said "So we can get the stuff put away, finish cleaning the old stove to take pictures to sell it and then clean the new and bring it in." Whew. Right away I felt a lump in my gut because I am either solely or half responsible for this new round of tasks. And I already feel like my day is so full with business planning, laundry, computer back ups, etc.
What I notice is that overwhelm plunges me directly into a Victim Mentality. Not a place I want to be. I've learned a lot of tools to recover from this default and one of the best is to just get started. Doing something ... anything ... seems to ignite some energy that is just waiting for action. It propels me into a different state of being and frankly, it doesn't matter what I am doing as long as it is in the direction of what I ultimately want.
If I let overwhelm take hold, I end the day with regret and shame for not having at least tried to do things that fulfill or satisfy me. So ... a little action is good for not only my job list but my soul.
